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Borderline Personality Disorder and Its Effects


Written by Srinidhi Gadiyaram


Have you ever felt like you were being alienated? Left out? Insecure about the people around you and how much they like or dislike you? I’m sure you’ve experienced these sensations at least once or twice in your life, whether it be with a stranger or a long-time friend/family. So, what is it like living with those thoughts 24/7? Borderline Personality disorder is a mental disorder that impacts your mind, body, and personality; you lose your sense of self in a long-term pursuit of validation or a sense of belongingness. Symptoms include emotional instability, rapid and vigorous insecurity, impulsivity, and deformed relationships stemming from feelings of worthlessness.


So, How Does BPD Affect One's Day-to-Day Life?

  • Stress-related paranoia that develops into existential crises

  • Shifting your goals and dreams as you also change your self-image

  • Reinforcing the mental idea that you have no existence or that your existence holds no purpose

  • This can lead to legal issues and jail time because of impulsive and violent behaviors

  • Attempting suicide at any turn of conflict or doubt or inflicting self-injury or hospitalization

  • Continued involvement in abusive relationships following multiple separations and/or violent encounters

  • Leading to marital issues and large amounts of conflict

Such effects on one's life are both unrealistic and terrifying to imagine; no one acts in such a way and feels so many negative emotions at once, as a result of their free will. BPD can also stem from Depression, Anxiety disorders, substance, and alcohol abuse, Bipolar disorder, OCD, childhood trauma, PTSD, etc. All of these mental illnesses carry powerful conditions and reverberations that connect to the sole feeling of mental instability.


So, now that we know all of that, how can you be helpful and respectful to someone with BPD, whether they’re performing as normally as possible or during an episode?